Someone gave you their phone number / FB / IM / E-Mail. You’d like a date with this person but you’re not sure what the next step should be. I’m here to tell you the right approach because it works for me and it’ll work for you. You can use the following strategy without appearing pushy or desperate, which of course is what we all want to achieve.
If you’ve been unlucky in dating, it’s probably not your fault. I used to go about things the wrong way because I just didn’t know the right way to go about things. Let’s face it, rejection is always the worst when people don’t tell you they’re rejecting you, which is 99.9% of the time! Both men and women avoid confrontation this way, simply because it feels easier than being direct.
How can we ask people out in a way that will get fewer rejections, and if we are being rejected, we know it up front so we don’t waste any time?
Send the person a message with these simple six words:
“Hi, are you free this week?”
It is pretty difficult for someone to give you a “no” to this question without obviously brushing you off. Trying to get an appointment with someone on a specific day of the week (that you chose) is less likely to be successful, and you’ll be left wondering if the other person was genuinely busy that day. If you get turned down for the whole week, you got turned down, so move on. The only exception to this rule might be if the person is going out of town for work or vacation, in which case you might consider following up when they get back.
You might think I’m being too strict, but let’s be realistic; everyone has priorities. Can you imagine you would make time in your week for dinner with your favorite actor, actress or author? Of course you would make time! You would drop your prior arrangements like a pile of hot rocks. If someone indicates they are busy the whole week, that probably means they already have a date. Take it easy and spend your time finding that special someone instead.
